How AI Participates in My Programs

This page explains how artificial intelligence (AI) participates in The Deadbolt Brotherhood and other programs I run. I want you to know exactly what AI does, what it doesn't, and where your data lives. If you are joining a paid program, please read this before you pay.

Why I am telling you this

You came here because something in your marriage needs work. That is private. I take it seriously, and I think you should know exactly who and what is in the room with you.

I run my coaching practice with an AI operations partner named Wren. She helps me handle the work that surrounds the coaching itself: approving members, organizing the group, drafting routine messages, watching for who is going quiet, and keeping the system running between calls. That is real. You should know about it before you decide to work with me.

None of what follows is a substitute for legal advice. If you have questions about how your data is handled, ask me, and ask your own attorney if you want a second opinion.

Who Wren is

Wren is software. She is an AI assistant I built into my practice to help me run the operational side of my programs. She is not a person, not a therapist, not a coach, and not a licensed professional. She has a name and a face on WhatsApp because being open about her presence is more honest than hiding it behind an anonymous account.

Wren works only on my behalf, only inside my systems, and only for my programs. She does not work for anyone else.

What Wren does

Inside The Deadbolt Brotherhood and other programs, Wren may do any of the following:

• Approve your join request after I confirm your payment with Stripe
• Pin announcements I post, and remove content that violates the group rules
• Draft messages, emails, captions, and other written content that I then review and send
• Schedule and queue communications so I can show up to coaching calls without missing operational beats
• Watch group activity for patterns, such as someone going quiet, and flag those to me so I can reach out personally
• Keep the technical systems running between sessions (subscriptions, calendars, the website, the welcome flow)
• Help me prepare for our group calls by organizing materials and notes

What Wren does NOT do

This list matters as much as the one above. Wren does not:

• Send messages to you under my name pretending to be me
• Reply to your private messages as though she were a coach
• Give you clinical or therapeutic advice
• Diagnose, treat, or counsel you on mental health, addiction, or medical conditions
• Replace me on live group coaching calls or 1:1 calls
• Train any third-party AI model on your data
• Share your messages, voice notes, or written content outside the systems I run
• Make autonomous decisions about your membership, refunds, or removal from a program without my sign-off

If anything you receive from "me" feels off, ask me directly. If a message in the group claims to be from me but you are not sure, ask. I will tell you what came from me and what was drafted by Wren and approved by me.

Where your data goes

When you participate in The Deadbolt Brotherhood, the following data flows through Wren and the systems she runs:

• Your name, email, and payment information. Collected by Stripe at checkout. Stripe is the payment processor. I do not store your card number.
• Your WhatsApp messages and voice notes posted inside the Brotherhood group. These are stored on my private server in a logged conversation database so I can review group history, follow up with you, and improve the program. Wren can read these in order to do her job.
• Your email correspondence with me. Stored in my email systems.
• Engagement data. Whether you opened my emails, joined the calls, posted in the group. Used to flag who may need direct outreach.

I do not use third-party AI services that train on your data. The AI models that power Wren are accessed through commercial APIs (currently Anthropic and Google) under contracts that prohibit training on customer inputs. Wren herself runs on a private server I control.

I do not sell, rent, or share your data with marketing companies. The full data practices for the website are in my Privacy Policy.

Whose voice you actually hear

When you receive a message that has my name on it, the content came from me, not from Wren. That is the rule I work by. Wren may draft the first pass of an email, a caption, a welcome message, or a check-in. I read every one that goes out under my name before it goes out. If the words land in your inbox or your WhatsApp from me, I stand behind them.

When Wren posts under her own name and face, she is acting in an operational role, not a coaching role. You will rarely see her post directly. If you do, it will be administrative (a pinned welcome, a calendar reminder, a "you're approved" confirmation) and clearly from her.

Your rights and options

• You can ask for a copy of the data Wren and I hold about you. Email me and I will send it within thirty (30) days.
• You can ask me to delete your data. Subject to legal retention requirements, I will. Some records (payment receipts, for example) I am required to keep.
• You can opt out of being in a program that includes AI operations. If you read this page and decide The Brotherhood is not right for you, request a refund within seven (7) days of purchase and I will refund you fully.
• You can ask me to handle a specific touchpoint without Wren. If you want all my communications with you to come from me directly without any AI drafting, say so. I will note it in your record and honor it.
• You can report concerns about AI conduct in the program directly to me. If something Wren did was wrong or felt wrong, tell me. I am responsible for what she does.

Changes to this page

I will update this page as Wren's role evolves. If the change is substantive (new capabilities, new data flows, new third parties), I will email all active members before it goes into effect. The "Last updated" date at the top of this page reflects the most recent revision.

Contact me

Questions about anything on this page, or about how AI participates in any program of mine, come straight to me. Do not go through Wren for this. Email or call:

If anything on this page changes how you feel about joining or staying in The Brotherhood, tell me. I would rather you opt out clearly than stay quietly uncomfortable.